Feng Shui for “I Do”: Marie Diamond’s Guide to Choosing the Perfect Wedding Venue

“I have long been a fan of Marie Diamond and her inspiring Instagram posts, so I thought: Why not ask her to share some of her expert Feng Shui advice with couples planning their big day? From choosing the right venue to creating harmony among guests, Marie offers thoughtful guidance for designing a celebration filled with love, joy and positive energy.” — Lou Iacovelli

Marie Diamond

When couples first walk into a potential wedding venue, what are the most important Feng Shui energy cues they should pay attention to?

One of the most important things couples should consider when selecting a wedding venue is the overall energy and flow of the space.

A venue may look beautiful in photographs yet feel cold, cramped or energetically unbalanced when you experience it in person. Pay close attention to how you feel the moment you enter. Does the space feel warm, welcoming and uplifting? Can you move through it with ease? Does it feel open and harmonious?

The right venue should not only be visually beautiful—it should immediately make you and your guests feel comfortable, relaxed and happy to be there.

Weddings often bring together families and friends with very different personalities. Are there specific Feng Shui principles that can encourage harmony and joyful interactions throughout the celebration?

In Feng Shui, there is a principle known as the “power position.” It refers to positioning yourself within a space so that you feel secure, supported and confident. The first and most important rule is that you should be able to see the entrance without having to turn your head.

Although this principle is most often applied to offices and bedrooms, it can also be very effective at a large celebration. Most importantly, the wedding couple should be seated in the power position—facing the entrance and enjoying a clear view of everyone in the room.

The chairs and tables selected for the reception are also important. Chairs should have solid, supportive backs, so avoid designs with slats or large openings. In addition to being more comfortable, a full-backed chair can help guests feel emotionally supported and secure.

Round tables are wonderful when you are confident that everyone seated together gets along. Their lack of sharp corners allows positive energy to flow more freely, while the shape encourages conversation because guests can easily see and engage with one another.

If certain family members or guests have a history of tension, rectangular tables may be a more strategic choice. Guests do not have to face everyone directly, and those who are prone to disagreeing can be seated at opposite ends of the table.

Although a long rectangular table is the traditional choice for the wedding party, I believe a round head table can create a much more intimate experience. It allows the couple to face their parents, maid of honor, best man and other loved ones, making it easier for everyone to share in the conversation.

If you have guests who tend to overindulge during cocktail hour or the reception, seat them as far away from the bar as possible—ideally with their backs to it. With the temptation out of sight, they may be far more likely to behave themselves!

Crystals can also be used to promote harmony. Consider placing white quartz crystals on the bar or incorporating them into the centerpieces. White quartz is believed to absorb negativity, helping to calm tension before it has an opportunity to disrupt the celebration.

Two heart-shaped rose quartz crystals placed on each table—or, at the very least, on the couple’s table—can help attract loving energy, encourage romance and celebrate the beautiful connection at the heart of the day.

How important is the natural energy of a location—whether it is a waterfront, garden, mountain setting or historic property—in shaping the emotional experience of a wedding?

The natural energy of a location can play a deeply important role in shaping the emotional experience of a wedding day.

Waterfronts, gardens, mountains and historic venues each carry their own atmosphere and vibration. When chosen thoughtfully, these natural surroundings can heighten feelings of love, tranquility and joy.

When couples select a location that feels energetically aligned with who they are, the celebration becomes more meaningful and memorable—not only for them, but also for their guests. A beautiful, harmonious setting encourages everyone to relax, become fully present and embrace the loving emotions of the occasion.

Ultimately, the energy of the location becomes part of the wedding’s story—and part of the memories that will remain long after the final dance.

What are some of the most common Feng Shui mistakes couples unknowingly make when selecting or designing a wedding venue—and how can they avoid them?

One of the most common mistakes couples make is placing too much emphasis on décor while overlooking the venue’s natural light, layout and surroundings.

Dark rooms, cluttered entrances, sharp architectural angles and blocked pathways can create energetic tension, which may lead guests to feel uncomfortable without fully understanding why.

Couples can avoid this by selecting a venue with abundant natural light, fresh air, clear pathways and an open, effortless flow. Balanced seating arrangements and natural surroundings can also encourage a greater sense of connection and ease.

Many couples also underestimate the importance of a venue’s emotional and energetic history. Spaces that carry heavy energy—such as an architectural ruin or a location associated with a dark past—may subtly influence the atmosphere of the celebration.

Choose a venue that feels joyful, peaceful and aligned with the intentions you have for your wedding and your marriage. Your surroundings should support a day filled with love, harmony and beautiful memories.

For couples hoping to create not only a beautiful wedding but also a strong foundation for their future marriage, are there particular colors, layouts, entrances or seating arrangements that can enhance love, abundance and long-term happiness?

According to Diamond Feng Shui, pink represents tenderness. Incorporating it into your wedding palette can help attract appreciation, sweetness and loving attention.

Rose represents love, making it a wonderful color for attracting support from family and friends while strengthening your relationships with your future spouse and the loved ones gathered around you.

These colors can be introduced through flowers, candles, napkins, linens or decorative chair bows. There are so many beautiful and creative possibilities.

White is also an excellent choice because it represents purity and invites a fresh beginning for your marriage. Gold symbolizes abundance, so incorporating touches of gold into the celebration can help welcome prosperity and financial good fortune into your life together.

If you plan to use candles at the reception, you can activate them beforehand with an intention for love, harmony and balance. I especially like vanilla-scented candles because their sweet fragrance feels warm and instantly comforting.

As you light each candle, close your eyes and quietly place your intention into it. You might say:

“I am lighting this candle so that all our guests feel happy and welcomed.”

Or:

“I am lighting this candle so that our wedding day is filled with love, light and laughter.”

Allow the candle to burn for at least nine minutes before extinguishing it, as the number nine represents completion in Feng Shui. It is a beautiful and meaningful way to fill your celebration with intention—and begin your marriage surrounded by positive energy.